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7 step status updates September 13, 2010

Filed under: jokes,Life — freakville @ 12:26 pm

its been quite some time now i wanted to the post this..

though i personally do not have a job looking at my peer’s fb’s status messages this is what i could infer

1. yay..my first day at work was awesome..everything is new , fresh , cool

2. after 2 weeks.. my first paycheck ..celebrations !!

3. after 4 weeks …cleared my driving test..got a license!

4. after 6 weeks on my way to PHD in buying a new car

5. i just got one ! cool, swanky, sasta , tikkav

6.after 9 weeks same old job, work routine, weekend , monday , my life sucks

7.after 10 weeks, finally  the much awaited long weekend, let me chill out at home and take some rest .i need to relax, its been quite a tiring journey

i have been raving to jump onto the 10 week cycle my friends have been going through…i wanna update my fb too with these mesgs but looks like mera number nahin abhi…let me wait and see

 

someone summed it up August 5, 2010

Filed under: Life — freakville @ 1:14 am

For everything you have missed, you have gained something else;

And for everything you gain, you loose something else

It is about your outlook towards life. You can either regret or rejoice.

 

How Will You Measure Your Life? – an excellent article by HBR Prof August 4, 2010

Filed under: Life — freakville @ 2:17 pm

Editor’s Note: When the members of the class of 2010 entered business school, the economy was strong and their post-graduation ambitions could be limitless. Just a few weeks later, the economy went into a tailspin. They’ve spent the past two years recalibrating their worldview and their definition of success.

The students seem highly aware of how the world has changed (as the sampling of views in this article shows). In the spring, Harvard Business School’s graduating class asked HBS professor Clay Christensen to address them—but not on how to apply his principles and thinking to their post-HBS careers. The students wanted to know how to apply them to their personal lives. He shared with them a set of guidelines that have helped him find meaning in his own life. Though Christensen’s thinking comes from his deep religious faith, we believe that these are strategies anyone can use. And so we asked him to share them with the readers of HBR.

Before I published The Innovator’s Dilemma, I got a call from Andrew Grove, then the chairman of Intel. He had read one of my early papers about disruptive technology, and he asked if I could talk to his direct reports and explain my research and what it implied for Intel. Excited, I flew to Silicon Valley and showed up at the appointed time, only to have Grove say, “Look, stuff has happened. We have only 10 minutes for you. Tell us what your model of disruption means for Intel.” I said that I couldn’t—that I needed a full 30 minutes to explain the model, because only with it as context would any comments about Intel make sense. Ten minutes into my explanation, Grove interrupted: “Look, I’ve got your model. Just tell us what it means for Intel.”

I insisted that I needed 10 more minutes to describe how the process of disruption had worked its way through a very different industry, steel, so that he and his team could understand how disruption worked. I told the story of how Nucor and other steel minimills had begun by attacking the lowest end of the market—steel reinforcing bars, or rebar—and later moved up toward the high end, undercutting the traditional steel mills.

When I finished the minimill story, Grove said, “OK, I get it. What it means for Intel is…,” and then went on to articulate what would become the company’s strategy for going to the bottom of the market to launch the Celeron processor.

I’ve thought about that a million times since. If I had been suckered into telling Andy Grove what he should think about the microprocessor business, I’d have been killed. But instead of telling him what to think, I taught him how to think—and then he reached what I felt was the correct decision on his own.

That experience had a profound influence on me. When people ask what I think they should do, I rarely answer their question directly. Instead, I run the question aloud through one of my models. I’ll describe how the process in the model worked its way through an industry quite different from their own. And then, more often than not, they’ll say, “OK, I get it.” And they’ll answer their own question more insightfully than I could have.

My class at HBS is structured to help my students understand what good management theory is and how it is built. To that backbone I attach different models or theories that help students think about the various dimensions of a general manager’s job in stimulating innovation and growth. In each session we look at one company through the lenses of those theories—using them to explain how the company got into its situation and to examine what managerial actions will yield the needed results.

On the last day of class, I ask my students to turn those theoretical lenses on themselves, to find cogent answers to three questions: First, how can I be sure that I’ll be happy in my career? Second, how can I be sure that my relationships with my spouse and my family become an enduring source of happiness? Third, how can I be sure I’ll stay out of jail? Though the last question sounds lighthearted, it’s not. Two of the 32 people in my Rhodes scholar class spent time in jail. Jeff Skilling of Enron fame was a classmate of mine at HBS. These were good guys—but something in their lives sent them off in the wrong direction.

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As the students discuss the answers to these questions, I open my own life to them as a case study of sorts, to illustrate how they can use the theories from our course to guide their life decisions.

One of the theories that gives great insight on the first question—how to be sure we find happiness in our careers—is from Frederick Herzberg, who asserts that the powerful motivator in our lives isn’t money; it’s the opportunity to learn, grow in responsibilities, contribute to others, and be recognized for achievements. I tell the students about a vision of sorts I had while I was running the company I founded before becoming an academic. In my mind’s eye I saw one of my managers leave for work one morning with a relatively strong level of self-esteem. Then I pictured her driving home to her family 10 hours later, feeling unappreciated, frustrated, underutilized, and demeaned. I imagined how profoundly her lowered self-esteem affected the way she interacted with her children. The vision in my mind then fast-forwarded to another day, when she drove home with greater self-esteem—feeling that she had learned a lot, been recognized for achieving valuable things, and played a significant role in the success of some important initiatives. I then imagined how positively that affected her as a spouse and a parent. My conclusion: Management is the most noble of professions if it’s practiced well. No other occupation offers as many ways to help others learn and grow, take responsibility and be recognized for achievement, and contribute to the success of a team. More and more MBA students come to school thinking that a career in business means buying, selling, and investing in companies. That’s unfortunate. Doing deals doesn’t yield the deep rewards that come from building up people.

I want students to leave my classroom knowing that.

Create a Strategy for Your Life

A theory that is helpful in answering the second question—How can I ensure that my relationship with my family proves to be an enduring source of happiness?—concerns how strategy is defined and implemented. Its primary insight is that a company’s strategy is determined by the types of initiatives that management invests in. If a company’s resource allocation process is not managed masterfully, what emerges from it can be very different from what management intended. Because companies’ decision-making systems are designed to steer investments to initiatives that offer the most tangible and immediate returns, companies shortchange investments in initiatives that are crucial to their long-term strategies.

Over the years I’ve watched the fates of my HBS classmates from 1979 unfold; I’ve seen more and more of them come to reunions unhappy, divorced, and alienated from their children. I can guarantee you that not a single one of them graduated with the deliberate strategy of getting divorced and raising children who would become estranged from them. And yet a shocking number of them implemented that strategy. The reason? They didn’t keep the purpose of their lives front and center as they decided how to spend their time, talents, and energy.

It’s quite startling that a significant fraction of the 900 students that HBS draws each year from the world’s best have given little thought to the purpose of their lives. I tell the students that HBS might be one of their last chances to reflect deeply on that question. If they think that they’ll have more time and energy to reflect later, they’re nuts, because life only gets more demanding: You take on a mortgage; you’re working 70 hours a week; you have a spouse and children.

For me, having a clear purpose in my life has been essential. But it was something I had to think long and hard about before I understood it. When I was a Rhodes scholar, I was in a very demanding academic program, trying to cram an extra year’s worth of work into my time at Oxford. I decided to spend an hour every night reading, thinking, and praying about why God put me on this earth. That was a very challenging commitment to keep, because every hour I spent doing that, I wasn’t studying applied econometrics. I was conflicted about whether I could really afford to take that time away from my studies, but I stuck with it—and ultimately figured out the purpose of my life.

Had I instead spent that hour each day learning the latest techniques for mastering the problems of autocorrelation in regression analysis, I would have badly misspent my life. I apply the tools of econometrics a few times a year, but I apply my knowledge of the purpose of my life every day. It’s the single most useful thing I’ve ever learned. I promise my students that if they take the time to figure out their life purpose, they’ll look back on it as the most important thing they discovered at HBS. If they don’t figure it out, they will just sail off without a rudder and get buffeted in the very rough seas of life. Clarity about their purpose will trump knowledge of activity-based costing, balanced scorecards, core competence, disruptive innovation, the four Ps, and the five forces.

My purpose grew out of my religious faith, but faith isn’t the only thing that gives people direction. For example, one of my former students decided that his purpose was to bring honesty and economic prosperity to his country and to raise children who were as capably committed to this cause, and to each other, as he was. His purpose is focused on family and others—as mine is

The choice and successful pursuit of a profession is but one tool for achieving your purpose. But without a purpose, life can become hollow.

Allocate Your Resources

Your decisions about allocating your personal time, energy, and talent ultimately shape your life’s strategy.

I have a bunch of “businesses” that compete for these resources: I’m trying to have a rewarding relationship with my wife, raise great kids, contribute to my community, succeed in my career, contribute to my church, and so on. And I have exactly the same problem that a corporation does. I have a limited amount of time and energy and talent. How much do I devote to each of these pursuits?

Allocation choices can make your life turn out to be very different from what you intended. Sometimes that’s good: Opportunities that you never planned for emerge. But if you misinvest your resources, the outcome can be bad. As I think about my former classmates who inadvertently invested for lives of hollow unhappiness, I can’t help believing that their troubles relate right back to a short-term perspective.

When people who have a high need for achievement—and that includes all Harvard Business School graduates—have an extra half hour of time or an extra ounce of energy, they’ll unconsciously allocate it to activities that yield the most tangible accomplishments. And our careers provide the most concrete evidence that we’re moving forward. You ship a product, finish a design, complete a presentation, close a sale, teach a class, publish a paper, get paid, get promoted. In contrast, investing time and energy in your relationship with your spouse and children typically doesn’t offer that same immediate sense of achievement. Kids misbehave every day. It’s really not until 20 years down the road that you can put your hands on your hips and say, “I raised a good son or a good daughter.” You can neglect your relationship with your spouse, and on a day-to-day basis, it doesn’t seem as if things are deteriorating. People who are driven to excel have this unconscious propensity to underinvest in their families and overinvest in their careers—even though intimate and loving relationships with their families are the most powerful and enduring source of happiness.

If you study the root causes of business disasters, over and over you’ll find this predisposition toward endeavors that offer immediate gratification. If you look at personal lives through that lens, you’ll see the same stunning and sobering pattern: people allocating fewer and fewer resources to the things they would have once said mattered most.

Create a Culture

There’s an important model in our class called the Tools of Cooperation, which basically says that being a visionary manager isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. It’s one thing to see into the foggy future with acuity and chart the course corrections that the company must make. But it’s quite another to persuade employees who might not see the changes ahead to line up and work cooperatively to take the company in that new direction. Knowing what tools to wield to elicit the needed cooperation is a critical managerial skill.

The theory arrays these tools along two dimensions—the extent to which members of the organization agree on what they want from their participation in the enterprise, and the extent to which they agree on what actions will produce the desired results. When there is little agreement on both axes, you have to use “power tools”—coercion, threats, punishment, and so on—to secure cooperation. Many companies start in this quadrant, which is why the founding executive team must play such an assertive role in defining what must be done and how. If employees’ ways of working together to address those tasks succeed over and over, consensus begins to form. MIT’s Edgar Schein has described this process as the mechanism by which a culture is built. Ultimately, people don’t even think about whether their way of doing things yields success. They embrace priorities and follow procedures by instinct and assumption rather than by explicit decision—which means that they’ve created a culture. Culture, in compelling but unspoken ways, dictates the proven, acceptable methods by which members of the group address recurrent problems. And culture defines the priority given to different types of problems. It can be a powerful management tool.

In using this model to address the question, How can I be sure that my family becomes an enduring source of happiness?, my students quickly see that the simplest tools that parents can wield to elicit cooperation from children are power tools. But there comes a point during the teen years when power tools no longer work. At that point parents start wishing that they had begun working with their children at a very young age to build a culture at home in which children instinctively behave respectfully toward one another, obey their parents, and choose the right thing to do. Families have cultures, just as companies do. Those cultures can be built consciously or evolve inadvertently.

If you want your kids to have strong self-esteem and confidence that they can solve hard problems, those qualities won’t magically materialize in high school. You have to design them into your family’s culture—and you have to think about this very early on. Like employees, children build self-esteem by doing things that are hard and learning what works.

Avoid the “Marginal Costs” Mistake

We’re taught in finance and economics that in evaluating alternative investments, we should ignore sunk and fixed costs, and instead base decisions on the marginal costs and marginal revenues that each alternative entails. We learn in our course that this doctrine biases companies to leverage what they have put in place to succeed in the past, instead of guiding them to create the capabilities they’ll need in the future. If we knew the future would be exactly the same as the past, that approach would be fine. But if the future’s different—and it almost always is—then it’s the wrong thing to do.

This theory addresses the third question I discuss with my students—how to live a life of integrity (stay out of jail). Unconsciously, we often employ the marginal cost doctrine in our personal lives when we choose between right and wrong. A voice in our head says, “Look, I know that as a general rule, most people shouldn’t do this. But in this particular extenuating circumstance, just this once, it’s OK.” The marginal cost of doing something wrong “just this once” always seems alluringly low. It suckers you in, and you don’t ever look at where that path ultimately is headed and at the full costs that the choice entails. Justification for infidelity and dishonesty in all their manifestations lies in the marginal cost economics of “just this once.”

I’d like to share a story about how I came to understand the potential damage of “just this once” in my own life. I played on the Oxford University varsity basketball team. We worked our tails off and finished the season undefeated. The guys on the team were the best friends I’ve ever had in my life. We got to the British equivalent of the NCAA tournament—and made it to the final four. It turned out the championship game was scheduled to be played on a Sunday. I had made a personal commitment to God at age 16 that I would never play ball on Sunday. So I went to the coach and explained my problem. He was incredulous. My teammates were, too, because I was the starting center. Every one of the guys on the team came to me and said, “You’ve got to play. Can’t you break the rule just this one time?”

I’m a deeply religious man, so I went away and prayed about what I should do. I got a very clear feeling that I shouldn’t break my commitment—so I didn’t play in the championship game.

In many ways that was a small decision—involving one of several thousand Sundays in my life. In theory, surely I could have crossed over the line just that one time and then not done it again. But looking back on it, resisting the temptation whose logic was “In this extenuating circumstance, just this once, it’s OK” has proven to be one of the most important decisions of my life. Why? My life has been one unending stream of extenuating circumstances. Had I crossed the line that one time, I would have done it over and over in the years that followed.

The lesson I learned from this is that it’s easier to hold to your principles 100% of the time than it is to hold to them 98% of the time. If you give in to “just this once,” based on a marginal cost analysis, as some of my former classmates have done, you’ll regret where you end up. You’ve got to define for yourself what you stand for and draw the line in a safe place.

Remember the Importance of Humility

I got this insight when I was asked to teach a class on humility at Harvard College. I asked all the students to describe the most humble person they knew. One characteristic of these humble people stood out: They had a high level of self-esteem. They knew who they were, and they felt good about who they were. We also decided that humility was defined not by self-deprecating behavior or attitudes but by the esteem with which you regard others. Good behavior flows naturally from that kind of humility. For example, you would never steal from someone, because you respect that person too much. You’d never lie to someone, either.

It’s crucial to take a sense of humility into the world. By the time you make it to a top graduate school, almost all your learning has come from people who are smarter and more experienced than you: parents, teachers, bosses. But once you’ve finished at Harvard Business School or any other top academic institution, the vast majority of people you’ll interact with on a day-to-day basis may not be smarter than you. And if your attitude is that only smarter people have something to teach you, your learning opportunities will be very limited. But if you have a humble eagerness to learn something from everybody, your learning opportunities will be unlimited. Generally, you can be humble only if you feel really good about yourself—and you want to help those around you feel really good about themselves, too. When we see people acting in an abusive, arrogant, or demeaning manner toward others, their behavior almost always is a symptom of their lack of self-esteem. They need to put someone else down to feel good about themselves.

Choose the Right Yardstick

This past year I was diagnosed with cancer and faced the possibility that my life would end sooner than I’d planned. Thankfully, it now looks as if I’ll be spared. But the experience has given me important insight into my life.

I have a pretty clear idea of how my ideas have generated enormous revenue for companies that have used my research; I know I’ve had a substantial impact. But as I’ve confronted this disease, it’s been interesting to see how unimportant that impact is to me now. I’ve concluded that the metric by which God will assess my life isn’t dollars but the individual people whose lives I’ve touched.

I think that’s the way it will work for us all. Don’t worry about the level of individual prominence you have achieved; worry about the individuals you have helped become better people. This is my final recommendation: Think about the metric by which your life will be judged, and make a resolution to live every day so that in the end, your life will be judged a success.

Clayton M. Christensen (cchristensen@hbs.edu) is the Robert and Jane Cizik Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School.

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spiritual but not religious July 8, 2009

I am not a very ritualistic person.I don’t believe in wearing rings, amulets, lucky charms to appease a particular deity.For me,spending quality time with God is more important than anything else.My conversations with God are personal and fulfilling. I don’t think God wants us to keep running to a temple ten times a day, paying obeisance to Him.God wants us to do our work and do it well and give thanks to Him.I am a strong believer in the “work is worship”  philosophy.If I am at work, my mind is totally focussed.I don’t need to meditate or chant a mantra to be able to focus.I
love my work,it keeps me ticking.It’s when am not working by mind tends to wander. Life is a roller coaster ride.You win some, you loose some.It’s in the face of testing times that a person’s true character is revealed and strengthened.I believe in enjoying good times and learning from bad experiences.In fact, if we didn’t have sorrow, we would never learn to value joy. I try not to hurt anybody. But, i am not superhuman and I do make mistakes.I believe that making a mistake is better than not doing anything at all.My parents have always given me the freedom to do as i please and
learn from mistakes.I never want to regret not having tried something I really set my heart on .In any case, there’s always a 50-50 chance of success or failure.If you don’t try, you loose the 50% chance of succeeding. The world is my play-ground and am ready to embrace it with open arms.

 

Follow Your Dreams July 3, 2009

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Always Follow Your Dreams

There were once 2 brothers who lived on the 80th level. On coming home
one day, they realized to their dismay that the lifts were not working
and that they have to climb the stairs home.

After struggling to the 20th level, panting and tired, they decided to
abandon their bags and come back for them the next day. They left
their bags then and climbed on. When they have struggled to the 40th
level, the younger brother started to grumble and both of them began
to quarrel. They continued to climb the flights of steps, quarreling
all the way to the 60th floor.

They then realized that they have only 20 levels more to climb and
decided to stop quarreling and continue climbing in peace. They
silently climbed on and reached their home at long last. Each stood
calmly before the door and waited for the other to open the door.

And they realized that the key was in their bags which was left on the
20th floor

This story is reflecting on our life…many of us live under the
expectations of our parents, teachers and friends when young. We
seldom get to do the things that we really like and love and are under
so much pressure and stress so that by the age of 20, we get tired and
decided to dump this load.

Being free of the stress and pressure, we work enthusiastically and
dream ambitious wishes.

But by the time we reach 40 years old, we start to lose our vision and
dreams. We began to feel unsatisfied and start to complain and
criticize. We live life as a misery as we are never satisfied.
Reaching 60, we realize that we have little left for complaining
anymore, and we began to walk the final episode in peace and calmness.

We think that there is nothing left to disappoint us, only to realize
that we could not rest in peace because we have an unfulfilled dream
…… a dream we abandoned 60 years ago.

Life is made of moments and sometimes a moment becomes life….

 

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the itch philosophy May 21, 2009

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Nothing ever is achieved in this world without enthusiasm. Man developed through keenness to know the reason behind every happening. From basic doubts such as “Why there are seasons? Why the apple falls downwards?” to complicated ones like “Why a superficial cut over the skin hurts more than a deep cut? Can butterflies hold rain drops on their wings and if not, what happens to them when it rains? Why do mosquitoes seem to like some people more than others ?” made humans think and develop logic.

Children have unending doubts. Parents should lay foundation for their insight by patiently answering them. Here is beautiful example. A child asked his father, “Why do we itch?” His father didn’t know the reason but went through books and Internet and found the answer.

The itch philosophy

The sensory receptors just below the surface of the skin send itch messages to the brain.

They flow along the same pathways of the nervous system as pain sensations. Itching has no obvious cause and is not associated with any accompanying illness, but can be an early symptom of illnesses like diabetes and Hodgkin’s disease.

People are more than willing to scratch the skin and suffer the bleeding pain rather than tolerating the itch.

Then the boy asked his father how astronauts scratch an itch when they have space suits on. The father tried again with books and Internet but this time could not find a correct answer. He did not leave it there, wrote letters to five astronauts and surprisingly all of them responded.

Wendy Lawrence, who flew a shuttle flight on a 16-day mission replied that a LES suit certainly ‘conspired’ to foil an itch but an astronaut needed to wear it only three times: upon launch, at re-entry and during space walk. Glen Lutz, designer of space suits said that a V-shaped object called a Valsalva device that relieves ear aches created by air pressure changes can be used.

William Pogue, an ex-astronaut wrote, “Not only did my nose itch occasionally but also my ears. We had to just tolerate it. I usually tried rubbing my nose against the helmet but it didn’t help much. The best thing was to think something else.” The father and son reciprocated and sent him a thanks letter. Realising people’s enthusiasm about astronauts, William Pogue wrote a funny but informative book, “How do you go to the bathroom in space?” In the forward he says, “Knowledge is the power, but enthusiasm is its switch”.

 

which was better? May 9, 2009

Filed under: Life,Oraganization Dynamics — freakville @ 4:59 pm
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this is a fwd that i got.. very true and interesting!
Pocket money from Dad was Rs. 200/- per month, in that we were not only
able to eat stomachs fill, but we were able to save too!!!
Now we earn a sum of more than 20K, we have no idea where it goes, let
alone saving it!!
Which was better, the former or the latter???

6 subjects per year, 6 different teachers! One project since we joined and just one manager!
Which was better, the former or the latter???

We used to make notes; we used to study for ranks!! Now we scan thru our mails; we struggle for our ratings!!!
Which was better, the former or the latter???

We have still not forgotten the people in the next section!!! Now we don’t even know who sits in the next cubicle!!!
Which was better, the former or the latter???

After getting back from a tiring play, we used to do our home work!! Now who knows/cares about home; all we do is just work!!!
Which was better, the former or the latter???

We knew our history and economics!! Now let alone reading books, we don’t even catch up with the daily news!!!
Which was better, the former or the latter???

We had an aim in life; backed by our teachers!! Now we have no idea about the future nor do we find anyone who would tell us anything!!!

Now just ask yourself,
Which was better, the former or the latter????

 

Life is a paradox April 30, 2009

Filed under: Life — freakville @ 5:36 pm

Life is a paradox

What we want we do not get

What we get we do not enjoy

What we enjoy is not permanent

What is permanent is boring !!

Kudos to the person who has written this

 

The Wemmicks Parable March 29, 2009

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courtesy: divya’s blog
By: Max Lucado
The Wemmicks were small wooden people. Each of the wooden people was
carved by a woodworker named Eli. His workshop sat on a hill
overlooking their village. Every Wemmick was different. Some had big
noses, others had large eyes. Some were tall and others were short.
Some wore hats, others wore coats. But all were made by the same
carver and all lived in the village.

And all day, every day, the Wemmicks did the same thing: They gave
each other stickers. Each Wemmick had a box of golden star stickers
and a box of gray dot stickers. Up and down the streets all over the
city, people could be seen sticking stars or dots on one another. The
pretty ones, those with smooth wood and fine paint, always got stars.
But if the wood was rough or the paint chipped, the Wemmicks gave
dots. The talented ones got stars, too. Some could lift big sticks
high above their heads or jump over tall boxes. Still others knew big
words or could sing very pretty songs. Everyone gave them stars. Some
Wemmicks had stars all over them! Every time they got a star it made
them feel so good that they did something else and got another star.
Others, though, could do little. They got dots.

Punchinello was one of these. He tried to jump high like the others,
but he always fell. And when he fell, the others would gather around
and give him dots. Sometimes when he fell, it would scar his wood, so
the people would give him more dots. He would try to explain why he
fell and say something silly, and the Wemmicks would give him more
dots. After a while he had so many dots that he didn’t want to go
outside. He was afraid he would do something dumb, such as forget his
hat or step in the water, and then people would give him another dot.
In fact, he had so many gray dots that some people would come up and
give him one without any reason. “He deserves lots of dots,” the
wooden people would agree with one another. “He’s not a good wooden
person.” After a while Punchinello believed them. “I’m not a good
Wemmick,” he would say. The few times he went outside, he hung around
other Wemmicks who had a lot of dots. He felt better around them.

One day he met a Wemmick who was unlike any he’d ever met. She had no
dots or stars. She was just wooden. Her name was Lulia. It wasn’t that
people didn’t try to give her stickers; it’s just that the stickers
didn’t stick. Some admired Lulia for having no dots, so they would run
up and give her a star. But it would fall off.

Some would look down on her for having no stars, so they would give
her a dot. But it wouldn’t stay either. “That’s the way I want to be,”
thought Punchinello. “‘I don’t want anyone’s marks.” So he asked the
stickerless Wemmick how she did it. “It’s easy,” Lulia replied. “every
day I go see Eli.”

“Eli?”

“Yes, Eli. The woodcarver. I sit in the workshop with him.”

“Why?”

“Why don’t you find out for yourself? Go up the hill. He’s there.” And
with that the Wemmick with no marks turned and skipped away.

“But he won’t want to see me!” Punchinello cried out. Lulia didn’t
seem to hear him. So Punchinello went home. He sat near a window and
watched the wooden people as they scurried around giving each other
stars and dots. “It’s not right,” he muttered to himself. And he
resolved to go see Eli. He walked up the narrow path to the top of the
hill and stepped into the big shop. His wooden eyes widened at the
size of everything. The stool was as tall as he was. He had to stretch
on his tiptoes to see the top of the workbench. A hammer was as long
as his arm.

Punchinello swallowed hard. “I’m not staying here!” and he turned to
leave, he heard his name “Punchinello? ” The voice was deep and strong.

Punchinello stopped. “Punchinello! How good to see you. Come and let
me have a look at you.”

Punchinello turned slowly and looked at the large bearded craftsman.
“You know my name?” the little Wemmick asked.

“Of course I do. I made you.” Eli stooped down and picked him up and
set him on the bench. “Hmmm,” the maker spoke thoughtfully as he
inspected the gray circles. “Looks like you’ve been given some bad marks.”

“I didn’t mean to, Eli. I really tried hard.”

“Oh, you don’t have to defend yourself to me, child. I don’t care what
the other Wemmicks think.”

“You don’t?”

“No, and you shouldn’t either. Who are they to give stars or dots
They’re Wemmicks just like you. What they think doesn’t matter, said
Eli… All that matters is what I think. And I think you are pretty
special.”

Punchinello laughed. “Me, special? Why? I can’t walk fast. I can’t
jump. My paint is peeling. Why do I matter to you?”

Eli looked at Punchinello, put his hands on those small wooden
shoulders, and spoke very slowly. “Because you’re mine. That’s why you
matter to me.” Punchinello had never had anyone look at him like this
– much less his maker. He didn’t know what to say. “Every day I’ve
been hoping you’d come,” Eli explained.

“I came because I met someone who had no marks.”

“I know. She told me about you.”

“Why don’t the stickers stay on her?”

“Because she has decided that what I think is more important than what
they think. The stickers only stick if you let them.”

“What?”

“The stickers only stick if they matter to you. The more you trust my
love, the less you care about the stickers.”

“I’m not sure I understand.”

“You will, but it will take time. You’ve got a lot of marks. For now,
just come to see me every day and let me remind you how much I care.”

Eli lifted Punchinello off the bench and set him on the ground.
“Remember,” Eli said as the Wemmick walked out the door. “You are
special because I made you. And I don’t make mistakes.”

Punchinello didn’t stop, but in his heart he thought, “I think he
really means it.” And when he did, a dot fell to the ground.