spiritual but not religious July 8, 2009

I am not a very ritualistic person.I don’t believe in wearing rings, amulets, lucky charms to appease a particular deity.For me,spending quality time with God is more important than anything else.My conversations with God are personal and fulfilling. I don’t think God wants us to keep running to a temple ten times a day, paying obeisance to Him.God wants us to do our work and do it well and give thanks to Him.I am a strong believer in the “work is worship”  philosophy.If I am at work, my mind is totally focussed.I don’t need to meditate or chant a mantra to be able to focus.I
love my work,it keeps me ticking.It’s when am not working by mind tends to wander. Life is a roller coaster ride.You win some, you loose some.It’s in the face of testing times that a person’s true character is revealed and strengthened.I believe in enjoying good times and learning from bad experiences.In fact, if we didn’t have sorrow, we would never learn to value joy. I try not to hurt anybody. But, i am not superhuman and I do make mistakes.I believe that making a mistake is better than not doing anything at all.My parents have always given me the freedom to do as i please and
learn from mistakes.I never want to regret not having tried something I really set my heart on .In any case, there’s always a 50-50 chance of success or failure.If you don’t try, you loose the 50% chance of succeeding. The world is my play-ground and am ready to embrace it with open arms.

Follow Your Dreams July 3, 2009

Always Follow Your Dreams

There were once 2 brothers who lived on the 80th level. On coming home
one day, they realized to their dismay that the lifts were not working
and that they have to climb the stairs home.

After struggling to the 20th level, panting and tired, they decided to
abandon their bags and come back for them the next day. They left
their bags then and climbed on. When they have struggled to the 40th
level, the younger brother started to grumble and both of them began
to quarrel. They continued to climb the flights of steps, quarreling
all the way to the 60th floor.

They then realized that they have only 20 levels more to climb and
decided to stop quarreling and continue climbing in peace. They
silently climbed on and reached their home at long last. Each stood
calmly before the door and waited for the other to open the door.

And they realized that the key was in their bags which was left on the
20th floor

This story is reflecting on our life…many of us live under the
expectations of our parents, teachers and friends when young. We
seldom get to do the things that we really like and love and are under
so much pressure and stress so that by the age of 20, we get tired and
decided to dump this load.

Being free of the stress and pressure, we work enthusiastically and
dream ambitious wishes.

But by the time we reach 40 years old, we start to lose our vision and
dreams. We began to feel unsatisfied and start to complain and
criticize. We live life as a misery as we are never satisfied.
Reaching 60, we realize that we have little left for complaining
anymore, and we began to walk the final episode in peace and calmness.

We think that there is nothing left to disappoint us, only to realize
that we could not rest in peace because we have an unfulfilled dream
…… a dream we abandoned 60 years ago.

Life is made of moments and sometimes a moment becomes life….

The Wemmicks Parable March 29, 2009

courtesy: divya’s blog
By: Max Lucado
The Wemmicks were small wooden people. Each of the wooden people was
carved by a woodworker named Eli. His workshop sat on a hill
overlooking their village. Every Wemmick was different. Some had big
noses, others had large eyes. Some were tall and others were short.
Some wore hats, others wore coats. But all were made by the same
carver and all lived in the village.

And all day, every day, the Wemmicks did the same thing: They gave
each other stickers. Each Wemmick had a box of golden star stickers
and a box of gray dot stickers. Up and down the streets all over the
city, people could be seen sticking stars or dots on one another. The
pretty ones, those with smooth wood and fine paint, always got stars.
But if the wood was rough or the paint chipped, the Wemmicks gave
dots. The talented ones got stars, too. Some could lift big sticks
high above their heads or jump over tall boxes. Still others knew big
words or could sing very pretty songs. Everyone gave them stars. Some
Wemmicks had stars all over them! Every time they got a star it made
them feel so good that they did something else and got another star.
Others, though, could do little. They got dots.

Punchinello was one of these. He tried to jump high like the others,
but he always fell. And when he fell, the others would gather around
and give him dots. Sometimes when he fell, it would scar his wood, so
the people would give him more dots. He would try to explain why he
fell and say something silly, and the Wemmicks would give him more
dots. After a while he had so many dots that he didn’t want to go
outside. He was afraid he would do something dumb, such as forget his
hat or step in the water, and then people would give him another dot.
In fact, he had so many gray dots that some people would come up and
give him one without any reason. “He deserves lots of dots,” the
wooden people would agree with one another. “He’s not a good wooden
person.” After a while Punchinello believed them. “I’m not a good
Wemmick,” he would say. The few times he went outside, he hung around
other Wemmicks who had a lot of dots. He felt better around them.

One day he met a Wemmick who was unlike any he’d ever met. She had no
dots or stars. She was just wooden. Her name was Lulia. It wasn’t that
people didn’t try to give her stickers; it’s just that the stickers
didn’t stick. Some admired Lulia for having no dots, so they would run
up and give her a star. But it would fall off.

Some would look down on her for having no stars, so they would give
her a dot. But it wouldn’t stay either. “That’s the way I want to be,”
thought Punchinello. “‘I don’t want anyone’s marks.” So he asked the
stickerless Wemmick how she did it. “It’s easy,” Lulia replied. “every
day I go see Eli.”

“Eli?”

“Yes, Eli. The woodcarver. I sit in the workshop with him.”

“Why?”

“Why don’t you find out for yourself? Go up the hill. He’s there.” And
with that the Wemmick with no marks turned and skipped away.

“But he won’t want to see me!” Punchinello cried out. Lulia didn’t
seem to hear him. So Punchinello went home. He sat near a window and
watched the wooden people as they scurried around giving each other
stars and dots. “It’s not right,” he muttered to himself. And he
resolved to go see Eli. He walked up the narrow path to the top of the
hill and stepped into the big shop. His wooden eyes widened at the
size of everything. The stool was as tall as he was. He had to stretch
on his tiptoes to see the top of the workbench. A hammer was as long
as his arm.

Punchinello swallowed hard. “I’m not staying here!” and he turned to
leave, he heard his name “Punchinello? ” The voice was deep and strong.

Punchinello stopped. “Punchinello! How good to see you. Come and let
me have a look at you.”

Punchinello turned slowly and looked at the large bearded craftsman.
“You know my name?” the little Wemmick asked.

“Of course I do. I made you.” Eli stooped down and picked him up and
set him on the bench. “Hmmm,” the maker spoke thoughtfully as he
inspected the gray circles. “Looks like you’ve been given some bad marks.”

“I didn’t mean to, Eli. I really tried hard.”

“Oh, you don’t have to defend yourself to me, child. I don’t care what
the other Wemmicks think.”

“You don’t?”

“No, and you shouldn’t either. Who are they to give stars or dots
They’re Wemmicks just like you. What they think doesn’t matter, said
Eli… All that matters is what I think. And I think you are pretty
special.”

Punchinello laughed. “Me, special? Why? I can’t walk fast. I can’t
jump. My paint is peeling. Why do I matter to you?”

Eli looked at Punchinello, put his hands on those small wooden
shoulders, and spoke very slowly. “Because you’re mine. That’s why you
matter to me.” Punchinello had never had anyone look at him like this
– much less his maker. He didn’t know what to say. “Every day I’ve
been hoping you’d come,” Eli explained.

“I came because I met someone who had no marks.”

“I know. She told me about you.”

“Why don’t the stickers stay on her?”

“Because she has decided that what I think is more important than what
they think. The stickers only stick if you let them.”

“What?”

“The stickers only stick if they matter to you. The more you trust my
love, the less you care about the stickers.”

“I’m not sure I understand.”

“You will, but it will take time. You’ve got a lot of marks. For now,
just come to see me every day and let me remind you how much I care.”

Eli lifted Punchinello off the bench and set him on the ground.
“Remember,” Eli said as the Wemmick walked out the door. “You are
special because I made you. And I don’t make mistakes.”

Punchinello didn’t stop, but in his heart he thought, “I think he
really means it.” And when he did, a dot fell to the ground.